Guidelines for the Spouses of Chief Petty Officers:  For Spouses by Spouses

Heads up, CPO spouses:  changes are on the horizon!  About 15 years ago, Naval Services FamilyLine composed and printed a wonderful resource still used by many CPO spouses today, Guidelines for the Spouses of Chief Petty Officers.   This booklet is part of the free Guideline series offered by Naval Services FamilyLine and is most often presented to CPO Selectee Spouses when his or her loved one has been selected for the rank of United States Navy Chief Petty Officer. 

It’s no doubt an exciting time for those spouses and the booklet proves to be of great help at just the turn of a page.  To this day, I still turn to my now very worn copy when preparing to attend any military function, social event, or when I am uncertain of formalities in a proposed situation. 

But times they are changing,and Naval Services FamilyLine is preparing to update the current edition of the booklet and we’d love to hear from you! 

What do you like about the booklet?  What needs to be included circa today?  Social media did not exist the in form that it does today. What information or suggestions should be made regarding use of social media - both personal and public postings?  Think:  what happens at the ball doesn’t always stay at the ball.

The booklet has proven to be of great benefit since it was published, and we want to ensure spouses continue to learn from each of the available Guideline Series publications for many more years to come. 

We look forward to your honest feedback and thank you for your help in this very special project.  Navy Chief, Navy Pride! 

Here’s to a great Navy day,

Dear New Military Spouse:  This Is My Promise To You

Dear New Military Spouse,

I write this letter to you with great hope as you enter an exciting, unfamiliar world known as the military lifestyle.  You and I will one day meet, most inevitably at a command function or a family social event.  You will probably be nervous, skeptical, and perhaps feel a bit uneasy at that first event.  I dare say this because that’s how I felt so many years ago.  But let me make you aware of the amazing family you have married into.  The military family - or in my case, the Navy family - knows no limits.  We are stationed all over the world.  We come in all different shapes, sizes, races, and sexuality.  Many have children, some nuclear, some becoming parents in other amazing ways.  Yet we are bound together by one immeasurable, unbreakable bond, and this is my promise to you: 

I promise to introduce myself at command events or social functions.  I will ask you questions because I want you to know you are an important part of the command family.  I will ask you questions about you. 

I promise to extend an invitation to the next Family Readiness Group meeting.  Whether you choose to attend on a regular basis is up to you, but I want to help introduce you to some of the many resources available to you as a military spouse, and the opportunity to meet other spouses from the command. Bonus: snacks are usually provided. 

I promise to open my Rolodex of information to you.  No one military spouse has the answer, no matter how long he or she has been a part of this lifestyle.  But I have met some of the most amazing people since marrying my husband, and I am happy to direct you to them should you ever require their assistance or services. 

I promise to provide local information.  Moving to a new city, new state, or even new country can be scary.  I will help you find a Target, Starbucks, Walmart, the NEX, and the base commissary. 

I promise to make sure you have an understanding of what emergency services are available to you.  You will quickly find that your Command Family Ombudsman will be your lifeline in times of crisis or emergency.  I will gladly introduce you to the Ombudsman if it helps. 

I promise to support you.  I do not care what rate or rank your spouse is, you have my unconditional support. 

I promise to stand by you.  You are a part of a fiercely independent, yet dependent family.  We will rally around fellow spouses in times of sadness, emergency, or crisis.  You will never be alone, 

I promise not to judge you.  Oh the mistakes I made as a new Navy spouse!  I was corrected, I was made to feel dumb for simply not knowing.  You have my word that I will not do the same.  I will offer guidance.

I promise you this won’t be easy. But I swear to you, it will be worth it. 

I promise you will make some of the most wonderful friends you could ever hope for.  Perhaps I will be one of them. 

I promise to hold your hand on the pier. We will laugh together through the tears and will rejoice in their Homecomings. 

These promises will be upheld by all spouses, near and far, young and not-so-young.  We are your new family and we are excited to welcome you to it.

With my kindest regards,
A Navy Spouse

Becoming A Leader Of Character

We have a very special invitation for all military spouses!  Naval Services FamilyLine C.O.R.E. is excited to welcome Dave Anderson, graduate of The United States Military Academy at West Point, and best-selling author of Becoming A Leader Of Character:  6 Habits That Make or Break a Leader at Work and at Home.

This exciting, one night only event, is open to all military spouses.  A welcome reception will begin at 6:00 p.m. with heavy hors d’oeuvres and beverages, and will be followed by an inspiring message from Dave Anderson.  The event will conclude with an opportunity to speak with Dave Anderson in an open question and answer forum.

To register, please complete the online registration form: Event Registration Form.
For additional information please contact We look forward to your company for the evening! 

September 11, 2001:  We Will Never Forget

Our parent’s and grandparent’s generations can still recall where they were and what they were doing the day President John F. Kennedy was assassinated.  Many of us can recall where we were and what we were doing the moment the Challenger fell from a picture-perfect sky.  Most of us can remember where we were and what we were doing the moment we learned of the attacks on the morning of September 11, 2001.

Many of us had spouses and loved ones deployed, myself included. We were millions of Americans who watched in shocking disbelief, through tears of fear, anger, uncertainty, as we witnessed the horror unfold. We grieved the loss of over 3,000 Americans and prayed for those missing in the tremendous destruction. We prayed for miracles.

And from the rubble and ruins, Americans rose together. We joined together without words and opened our homes, our hearts, and our communities to strangers. We embraced the afraid and confronted the fear. We resolved, as a nation, to never let those who perished be forgotten.

The images of unimaginable destruction were soon a backdrop to images of citizens, of all races and nationalities, helping their fellow man. Everyday individuals became extraordinary heroes.

I have no doubt that I will never forget the very moment I saw the second tower hit, or news of another plane headed towards our nation’s capital. And I surely won’t forget the stories of true heroism of those on board United Airlines Flight 93. I am very proud of the way we came together as one nation, and I vow to always honor the memory of those lost and pray for those who grieve all these years later.

We, The United States of America, hold you in our hearts and promise to never forget.

- Emily


Welcome to season!  This is an exciting time for you and your family, but you may find this is also a time of unfamiliar and uncharted territory. Your spouse will be busy - very busy - during what is affectionately known as “the season”.  It is during this time that your spouse will be part of rigorous training, physical fitness challenges, seemingly unusual traditions (seriously, what’s with the eggs?), and their physical, mental, and emotional capacities will be tested. 

They are becoming stronger.  They are becoming more determined.  They are learning to work fluidly with those who they will soon call brothers and sisters.  They are becoming United States Navy Chief Petty Officers.

But in the meantime, they are exhausted.  We hope you, as the spouse, have a good support system in place to assist you during this period of transition.  You may have questions, concerns, or frustrations.  You may find yourself angry with the process.  I assure you, this is all very commonplace and you are not alone.

Naval Services FamilyLine, with the assistance of C.O.R.E. units around the world, work collectively to make this process easier for you.  We are here to answer your questions, address your concerns, and offer guidance. 

If you did not have a chance to participate in the online webinar or attend an annual CPO Selectee Spouse Conference near you, we encourage you to reach out to Naval Services FamilyLine or your closet C.O.R.E. group.  Additionally, we suggest ordering your copy of Guidelines for the Spouses of CPOs.  The helpful booklet is available for free and is full of everything you need to know from the time the good news is received to the day of the pinning - and beyond! 

Your spouse needs your support and encouragement now more than ever, but you are not to be excluded from needing support, too.  We are always standing at the ready to be of help and are always here for you in friendship and support.  You’ve got this!

Navy Chief, Navy Pride!
Master Chief Petty Officer of the Navy and his wife, Mrs. Elka Franco-Giordano, share a moment with the CPO Selectee Spouse Conference guests in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
Master Chief Petty Officer of the Navy Steven Giordano, and his wife, Mrs. Elka Franco-Giordano, share a moment with the CPO Selectee Spouse Conference guests in Virginia Beach, Virginia on August 19, 2017. 

Happy Holidays, NDW!

Our FamilyLine volunteers were honored to participate in the 2013 Naval District Washington Holiday Season Greeting. We wish everyone a safe and happy holiday season!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

The Season of Giving

Naval Services FamilyLine is proud to be participating in #GivingTuesday, a movement to celebrate and provide incentives to give. This effort harnesses the collective power of a unique blend of partners - charities, families, businesses and individuals - to transform how people think about, talk about and participate in the giving season.

We hope on this #GivingTuesday you feel inspired to take collaborative action to improve your local communities, give back in better, smarter ways to the charities and causes you celebrate and help create a better world.

Consider designating your CFC Pledge to Naval Services FamilyLine - CFC # 71112. Or, visit our donation page to send a donation by PayPal or snail mail.

Thank You!

Thank you to MilitaryOneClickMilitary One Click for inviting us to take part in their monthly Charity Challenge and thank you to our fans and supporters for voting. It was a close race that made for an exciting month here at FamilyLine and we are honored to have been included.

Bravo Zulu to our competition, OutServe and Train a Dog, Save a Warrior, both outstanding organizations serving our military community.

Give Back with MilitaryOneClick

MilitaryOneClickEach month MilitaryOneClick hosts a “Charity Challenge” to bring awareness to military-focused organizations and calls on visitors to help them decide which charity should receive their monthly donation. This month Naval Services FamilyLine is honored to be included in the challenge.

To show your support, visit and vote for Naval Services FamilyLine.

Show Your Support!

Show your support for the Combined Federal Campaign (CFC) by wearing Red, White and Blue Friday, Sept. 27!!!

The CFC is the largest and most successful workplace fundraising campaign in the world. Over the past 50 years, the CFC has raised $7 billion to help neighbors in need around the corner, across the nation and throughout the world.

The Combined Federal Campaign of the National Capital Area (CFCNCA) is the local campaign for federal employees in the Washington Metropolitan Area. Please consider supporting Naval Services FamilyLine this year.

Naval Services FamilyLine makes it possible to help military families. You can make it possible, too, by designating us through the CFC.
Our designation number is 71112.

Naval Services FamilyLine (NSFL) is THE source for mentoring Sea Service Families since 1965.  Experienced spouses volunteer to mentor others through programs such as the COMPASS course, Command Spouse training, the Guideline series, and the CORE Library.

You can find NSFL support, classes and materials anywhere in the world. Search our website at or call us at 877-673-7773.

An online CFC pledge option is now available for donors through the MyPay website.

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